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Tuesday, March 12, 2019

Single mum of 9 who's never used a condom has 10th baby and makes a big decision


Sonya O'Loughlin is a busy and devoted mum-of-nine .
Despite single handedly raising her huge brood, the single mum - who admits she's never used a condom - has now welcomed baby number 10.
Sonya, from Southampton, knows the risks of giving birth so many times and baby Daniel's birth was fraught with difficulty.
With only her eldest daughter, Nicola, 19, with her for support Sonya has to be admitted to hospital to be induced when her baby's heart rate dropped in the later stages of her pregnancy.
But with just two pushes Daniel becomes the latest member of Sonya's mega family.

The mum-of-10 is one of the stars of 5Star documentary, Me and My 10 Kids: Mega Families.
Sonya's brood is made up of Nicola, 19, Leah, 17, Shannon, 16, Keon, 14, Erin, 13, Kye, 10, Cana, seven, Lewis, five, and one-year-old Lexi and now baby Daniel.
And after a gruelling 13 hour labour before she stunned her midwife and eldest daughter by delivering Daniel with just two pushes it's back home to normality for Sonya.
The huge family live in a four bedroom council flat in Southampton.
And Sonya, who doesn't work, does everything for her children.
She makes every meal from scratch - even the day after giving birth - makes sure they all get up, dressed and out the door for school every day while also caring for not one but now TWO babies.
However, the devoted parent, who admits life can be hard being both mum and dad, now has big plans of her own.
Sonya said: "I have been a mum for 18 years and I think it would benefit my sanity if I learned something new.
"I didn't do very well at school so it does scare me a bit."
The busy mum is planning to enroll on a painting and decorating course and then start her own business.
And she's adamant there will be no more babies to add to her giant family.
But she insists people shouldn't underestimate how challenging being a single mum of 10 really is.
Sonya said: "People say I haven't got a proper job but I would love to see people do my job.
"They would quit after just one day."
Her hard work at home hasn't gone unnoticed by her eldest children, who say they appreciate everything she does for her family.
And when Sonya arrives home with new arrival Daniel, it isn't a big adjustment in her busy house.
Eldest daughter, Nicola, says: "It doesn't feel weird to have a newborn in the house, it just feels normal."
Sonya herself has admitted she has never used a condom.
She explained: "Some people say they're allergic to condoms. I can't say that because I've never used one."
Morning's start early in Sonya's home - around 6:30am.
And there's an added obstacle when it comes to breakfast, the mum-of-nine only has three bowls.
The kids have to eat in shifts, and as soon as one group finishes their breakfast it's the turn of the next trio.
There's one further problem for Sonya's little ones, the bathroom sink is blocked up so they have to wash and brush their teeth in the kitchen.
With so many children to look after, Sonya has to rely on benefitsm which includes £460 child tax credit.
She has to make her money stretch with £179 going on rent and £130 being spent on food every week.
Sonya explains: "I have to buy everything in bulk. My money all goes on the children.
"It goes in their bellies and for anything else I can afford to pay for them. It never goes in my back pocket."
And in Barnet, Jo and Tommy also have 10 children.
Their brood includes Mitchell, 15, Lauren, 13, Joe, 11, Riley, nine, Regan, also nine, Tommy, eight, Ashley dean, six, Freddie, four, Danny, two, and one-year-old Niamh.
But Jo is far from convinced baby Niamh is the final baby.
The 36-year-old is desperate for child number 11, something Tommy is far from keen on.
He explained: "I have been saying no more babies since baby number four.
"She had a haemorrhage with Freddie, Danny was an eays birth but she was in labour for 10 hours with Niamh and had to have an emergency caesarean.
"Jo doesn't see that because she was going through it and doesn't see it from my point of view.
"I worry about losing her. I don't want at any point to have to do any of this on my own."
Jo and Tommy manage their huge family by having a strict routine and making sure they work together.
Each morning is run with precision, children and fed and dressed while Jo makes a huge number of lunches.
And the family have a huge mini bus to carry their brood around, especially when mum and dad collect them at the end of every school day.
Jo and Tommy are busy planning Niamh's big first birthday bash.
They've thrown a huge party for all their children's first birthdays and plan it for months. 
Costing up to £800 for the shindig, which has an inflatable ball pool, a candy floss machine, a huge pile of cup cakes, a birthday cake and sweets, Jo has a trick for making sure they can afford the extravaganza.
She said: "We buy bits at a time, over two or three months to make sure we spread the cost."
And little Niamh isn't the only one to have a special birthday bash.
Tommy puts on a spread for Jo's 36th celebrations. 
Because of their huge brood the couple don't get to go out often and instead Jo's friends are invited round.
But despite their loving marriage and strong bond, Jo cannot coninve Tommy that baby number 11 is a good idea.
She said: "I have to be in the right mindset and I need to know when I'm pregnant that this is my last baby."
Tommy is still standing firm and there massive brood remains at 10.

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